Another couple joining us on our honeymoon?
Hi people! And good day to you all! It’s a beautiful weekend!
I’m getting married in 5 weeks in Maui. It’s not a destination wedding with guests or anything, just the 2 of us. A friend of my fiance’s goes to Hawaii often & said he would like to be at the wedding & asked for dates. My fiance told him & now he has booked travel for him & his wife at a hotel near ours.
Do you think that’s odd? I didn’t really care because my fiance & I have been spending a lot of time together since I was laid off but I’ve never met the wife & the husband isn’t particularly friendly towards me. He kind of insulted me the 1st time I met him so I’ve never really liked him.
Would you be annoyed by this or am I just being picky about my trip? As a side note, I drink & they are both recovering alcoholics. I don’t want to feel weird having cocktails on the beach.
Disregard the alcohol comment. It came out wrong. My fiance is in the program as well. It’s no big deal.
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November 11th, 2009 at 2:55 am
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what! your husband is kinda an idiot no of fence… i wouldn’t marry him for a million bucks… he wants to invite other people on your HONEYMOON… bad sign
November 11th, 2009 at 7:48 pm
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if you don’t know them and no one else is invited to the wedding not even immediately family, i would find this very odd. that was really rude of him not to ask you first. he might not have even noticed, cause guys are just retarded like that. but how will he know it bothers you unless you tell him. and drink up girl, it’s YOUR wedding trip not theirs. if they feel uncomfortable that’s their fault for wanting to tag along on a couples wedding and honeymoon!
November 14th, 2009 at 2:21 am
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I dont recall seeing that ur intended asked them to go, nor did he say it was a special time for just the two of you. I think it needs to be made clear, that the time is for u and ur hub. If they want to be at the ceremony, that is fine, but afterwards, they can go to their love nest. Actually, you might find her appealling when the guys start talking football or sports. You two could go shopping. But under no circumstances should they be with u two the majority of a 24 hour day!!! Let your hub-to-be know your feelings now tho.
November 16th, 2009 at 11:07 am
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I would be upset too! You aren’t even having parents or close friends at this, and he invites two people you barely know and like without talking to you. Also, if your parents or anyone see them in pictures, they may get upset. I would talk to hima bout it and politely tell them that while you are thrilled that you will be able to see them there, you have arranged for a completely private ceremony. Yes, it is a little rude but I would rather come off as a little mean then have to put up with them at my wedding. It would be one thing if there were other people, but private means private! I would go to dinner with them once or twice, and during those dinners see if they are comfortable with you drinking. If not, arrange some private time for you and your hubby to have cocktails on the beach. Once they realize that this is a 100% private wedding and your honeymoon, they will probably understand that you don’t need them hanging around all the time.
November 18th, 2009 at 8:37 pm
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I’d deffinetly be annoyed. Tell your fiance this is your time together, meant to be spent alone. Tell him if he wants a vacation with his friend it’s fine, but not on your honeymoon. Give these people time to become your friends. You might find out in time you really like them & can have fun together. Lots of people that don’t drink still have a good time with people that do. Alcohol is not what makes people enjoy each others company. There can be a mixture of people and everyone still has a good time. Give them a chance.
November 19th, 2009 at 5:43 am
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Men are not the best communicators. My guess is that when your fiance said you were getting married in Maui, he didnt say it was a private thing or mention that no one else is coming. His friend might have been trying to be nice, and make a vacation out of it. Does the couple realize that they will be the only other ones at the wedding? They might feel strange once they realize they are “horning in” on your private event.
November 22nd, 2009 at 3:57 pm
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I don’t really think you are being picky, you are having a private wedding and it would be odd to have two people there that are not really close to both of you. It sounds like your fiance’s friend didn’t realize it was a private ceremony and basically invited himself without knowing better. If it really bothers you ask your fiance to let them know it is private and they would be the only ones there.
Then again, if his friend visits Hawaii often he may have plenty to do while he is there, besides dinner with the two of you once or twice, you may not even see that much of them. Maybe like a second honeymoon for the two of them as well. Honestly it wouldn’t bother me too much because I would just be so happy I would want to share the joy with everyone, but then again…you need your private time too. LOL Maybe I should of had a destination wedding. HeHe! Good Luck figuring this one out!
November 23rd, 2009 at 10:55 am
Create a video blog…instantly.
Let them come to the wedding. But the rest of the honeymoon is between you and your husband, and make that very, very clear to him and the others when you get the chance.
If they don’t get it — tell them that you cannot understand why they want to be on your honeymoon.
Take care of you, Anna. This is YOURS!
November 23rd, 2009 at 10:16 pm
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That is seriously tacky on their part. Can you change your hotel? Sometimes hotels will let you move to a sister property if you explain your problem. I would not spend time with this couple while on my honeymoon. Your fiance needs to expalin to this guy that your wedding is private and since your PARENTS aren’t invited, he certainly isn’t. I am so totally pissed off for you right now. How rude.